Osho on Trusting oneself and stop doing Imitation
Osho : It is better to be ignorant; at least the
ignorance is yours. It is authentic, it is real, sincere and honest!
Don’t go on with borrowed knowledge. Otherwise you will forget that you
are ignorant, and you will remain ignorant.
This sutra says ”... MOTHER PARTICULAR KNOWINGS.” Always try to know
something in a way that is fresh, direct, immediate. Don’t believe in
anyone. Your belief will lead you astray. Trust yourself – and if you
cannot trust yourself, how can you trust anybody else?
Sariputta came to Buddha, and he said, ”I have come to believe in you. I
have come! Help me to build faith in you.”
Buddha is reported to have said, ”If you don’t believe in yourself, how
can you believe in me? So forget me. First have trust in yourself,
believe in yourself. Only then can you have trust in someone else.”
So remember this: you cannot trust anybody
if you cannot even trust yourself. The first trust is always
within. Only then can it flow; only then can it overflow, it can reach
to others. But how can you trust if you don’t know anything?
How can you trust in yourself if you don’t have any experience? Try to
trust in yourself. Don’t think that this experience of looking through
others’ eyes is only with the absolute. It is with ordinary experiences
also. But let them be your own. They will help you to grow, they will
make you mature, they will make you ripened.
This is really strange: you look with others’ eyes, you live with
others’ lives. You call a rose beautiful. Really, is it your feeling or
just a teaching that is spread around you that a rose is beautiful? Is
this your knowing? Have you known it? You say that moonlight is good,
beautiful. Is it your knowing, or is it just that poets have been
singing about it and you are repeating it? If you are like a parrot, you
cannot live your life authentically.
Whenever you assert anything and whenever you say anything, first check
within whether it is your knowledge and your experience. Throw out all
that is not yours – it is of no use – and cherish and mother all that is
yours, because only through that will you grow. ”MOTHER PARTICULAR
KNOWINGS, PARTICULAR DOINGS, IN REALITY.”
Always remember ”in reality.” Do something.
Have you done anything ever, or have you
been just following others, just following orders? ”Love your
wife”: have you really loved her? Or are you just doing a duty because
it has been said, because it has been taught, ”Love your wife – or love
your mother, love your father, love your brother,” so you are loving and
you are following!
Have YOU really loved any time when you were there? Was it ever the case
that no teaching was working and no other was being followed? Were you
ever authentically in love? You can deceive yourself; you can say,
”Yes!” But find out before you say anything. If you have loved, you
would be transformed; the particular act of love would have changed you.
But it has not changed you because your love is false.
And the whole life has become false. You go on doing things that are not
your own. Do your
own thing and mother it. Buddha is good, but you cannot follow him.
Jesus is good, beautiful, but you cannot follow him. And if you will
follow, you will become ugly. You will be a carbon copy. You will be
false, and you will not be accepted by the existence. Nothing false is
Love a Buddha, love a Jesus, but don’t be
their carbon copies. Don’t imitate. Always allow your
own self to move in its own way. You will
become Buddha-like one day, but the path will be basically your own. One
day you will become a Jesus, but you will have traveled along a
different route, you will have experienced different things.
One thing is certain: whatsoever may be the route and whatsoever may be
the experience, it must be authentic, real, and your own. Then you will
reach one day. Through falsity you cannot reach the truth; falsity will
lead to more falsity.
Do something, remembering well that it is you who are doing it without
following anybody. Then even a very small act, just a smile, may become
a source of SATORI, a source of SAMADHI, cosmic consciousness. You come
back to your home and smile at your children.
That smile is false; you are pretending. You are smiling because a smile
is expected. It is a painted smile. Nothing else is smiling in you but
the lips. They are manipulated; the smile is mechanical. And you can
become so habituated in this that you may completely forget how to
smile. You may laugh, but the laughter may not be coming from your
Always remember, no matter what you are
doing, observe whether your center is involved in it
or not, because if it is not involved it is
better not to do a thing. Don’t do it! No one is forcing you to do
anything. Don’t do it! Preserve your energy for the moment when
something real happens to you; then do it. Don’t smile, preserve the
The smile will come, and then it will change you completely. Then it
will be total. Then every cell of your body will smile. Then it will be
an explosion – nothing painted.
Why do I always Compromise
Osho - I still don't accept myself
I don't like
Myself, Specially my Body
Can you say some thing about Guilt and Fear
Osho - why do you ask people to
Osho on Inferiority Complex and Superiority
Osho on need for
Approval and Acceptance from others
Osho - Imitation will make you very stupid,
I am so terribly
Ugly and I have suffered much because of that.
Why am I such a Beggar for Attention?
What can I do about it
Osho on Misery - What is this attachment to
misery? And why is it so difficult to be happy?
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