Osho on Sex outside of Marriage
Question - What is your attitude toward Sex, and Sex
outside of marriage?
Osho - Sex is very important because sex is the root of life. You are
born out of sex, your every cell in the body is a sex cell. Sex cannot
be denied and any society that denies sex becomes suicidal. Then it is
denying life itself.
So sex is very significant, very meaningful. But you can do two wrong
thinks with sex. One is,
you can be suppressive. Then you create perversions. In the West,
Christianity has created a very perverted mind through too much of a
’no’ attitude toward sex, too much fear about sex.
Too much suppression has created a reaction. That suppression will lead
to perverted mind.
So I am not for suppression. Nor am I for indulgence. Indulgence is
again a reaction.
Indulgence is the opposite extreme to suppression. That, too, is not
good. I am for healthy sex that is neither indulgence nor suppression.
Sex must be accepted in its totality. Then the question of inside or
outside of marriage is irrelevant because marriage is just a part of
the social system; there is nothing natural about it.
To me, to be really authentic in your sex life you have to go beyond the
structure of marriage.
You become inauthentic in two ways. If someone is in a sexual
relationship with someone that he or she doesn’t love, to me it is
Even if he or she is one’s husband or one’s wife, if one is not in love
then it is immoral. If love is the base, only then can you be honest,
sincere and authentic. If love is the base then marriage becomes, by and
by, a superficial structure.
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