|WHILE A MAN
DESIRES A WOMAN,
HIS MIND IS BOUND
AS CLOSELY AS A CALF TO ITS MOTHER.
Osho - One thing very significant has to be
understood before we enter into this sutra. In Sanskrit we use the word
KAMA both for desire as such, and for sexual desire. The same word is
used for both, and there is a reason why the same word is used for both.
To desire a woman or a man, or desire at all, both are expressed by the
same word, kama. The reason is very psychological, profound. Sanskrit is
one of the most profound languages of the earth, very deliberately
evolved. That is exactly the meaning of the word 'sanskrit'; SANSKRIT
means consciously refined, consciously evolved.
In India two languages have existed in the past. One was called Prakrit
-- PRAKRIT means the natural, unevolved, raw, crude, used by the people
-- and the other was called Sanskrit. Sanskrit means refined, cultured,
evolved, deliberate. That was used only by the intelligentsia, by the
brahmins. Hence Sanskrit has many significant clues. It is rooted in
For example, this same word being used for both desire as such, and for
sexual desire, has a tremendously important message in it. All desire is
basically sexual desire; that is the message in it. Desire as such has
the flavor of sexuality in it, and you can observe it. This
understanding is based, rooted in great observation. A man who is mad
after money -- watch his behavior, his being, look into his eyes, and
you will be surprised that he loves money in the same way somebody else
loves a woman or a man.
Now psychologists have performed a few experiments. They have made a few
cards, one hundred cards, ordinary playing cards. Just two or three
cards are there, inside the whole pack, of naked women. They give you
the whole pack, shuffled in such a way that the psychologist himself is
not aware where the cards are which contain the pictures of naked women.
But he goes on watching the eyes of the person who is looking at the
cards, who goes on looking at cards. When he comes to a naked woman
suddenly his eyes change. His pupils become big; that is automatic. He
is not aware what is happening, but immediately his pupils become so
big, they want to take the naked woman in as much as possible. They open
all the doors.
The same happens with people who are mad after money, money maniacs.
Seeing a hundred-rupee note their pupils become immediately big. They
may not be interested in a woman -- and women are aware of it, hence so
many ornaments, beautiful saris and all kinds of arrangements for these
foolish people. They may not look at the face of the woman but they will
be immediately interested in her necklace. They may be immediately
interested in her earrings, her hair clip; if it has a diamond, a big
they become interested in the diamond, and via the diamond they become
interested in the woman. Their sexuality has become perverted, it has
become focused on money. And so is the case with power-hungry people,
those who are after political power, those who want to become presidents
and prime ministers and governors. Just seeing the chair of the prime
minister is enough and their whole being is in a state of ecstasy, in a
state of orgasmic joy. Just seeing is enough. That is their goal.
Buddha is right to use the same word for both. Hence the
misunderstanding in translation. The translator has thought that he is
talking about women, so he translated kama as:
WHILE A MAN DESIRES A WOMAN, HIS MIND IS BOUND AS CLOSELY AS A CALF TO
ITS MOTHER. In fact, Buddha does not mention women. What he is
trying to say is: WHILE A MAN desires, HIS MIND IS BOUND AS CLOSELY AS A
CALF TO ITS MOTHER. Any desire is a bondage.
Desire AS SUCH is a bondage, because when you desire, you become
dependent on the other, on the desired object. Whether it is a woman,
money, a man, power, prestige, it does not matter -- it is desire, and
desire brings bondage. Why?
It is simple. When you desire something, your joy depends on that
something. If it is taken away, you are miserable; if it is given to
you, you are happy, but only for the moment. That too has to be
understood. Whenever your desire is fulfilled it is only for the moment
that you feel joy. It is fleeting, because once you have got it, again
the mind starts desiring for more, for something else. Mind exists in
desiring; hence mind can never leave you without desire. If you are
without desire mind dies immediately. That's the whole secret of
Create desirelessness and mind is gone, gone forever, never to return
back. If desire is there, mind will come. Desire is the root from where
the mind comes in. Desire is its nourishment, its food, its very life,
its breath. So mind cannot leave you without desire. If you desire God
-- even God -- and you meet God, it will be only for a moment that you
will be ecstatic. Then suddenly the mind will say, "Now what? Now this
goal is achieved. Project future goals. You are finished with God, now
there is no more in it."
Desire fulfilled only for a moment gives you a relief, and that relief
has also to be understood. In the moment of a fulfilled desire there is
relief. There is relief because in that small moment you are desireless.
Desirelessness is joy. When one desire is fulfilled and before the mind
projects another desire, between the two there is a small interval when
there is no desire. That moment is of meditation.
That's how meditation has been discovered. It has not been speculated
upon, it is not given by philosophers, by great thinkers. It is a simple
observation, a scientific observation, that whenever desire is not
there.... You wanted a beautiful house and you have got it. When you
open the door of the new house, for a moment you are transported into
another world, for a moment there is no desire. A long, long-cherished
desire has been fulfilled. It will take a little time for the mind....
Mind needs time, remember. Mind cannot function without time; hence mind
creates time. Without time there is no space for the mind to function.
Mind will take a little time. In fact, mind is shocked. It was not
hoping that the desire was going to be
fulfilled. The goal was so far away, the house was so big, and it was
almost impossible, but now that it is fulfilled mind is in shock. The
mind is collecting itself again while you are opening the door of the
new house, and you enter in the new house and a deep joy arises in you.
You say, "Aha!" The time that passes while you say "Aha!" is enough, and
mind has projected another desire.
The mind says, "The house is beautiful, but where is the swimming pool?
The house is beautiful, but the garden is not looked after." You will
have to create a new garden, a beautiful swimming pool, and again the
whole process sets in, again you are in the wheel of the mind. But for a
moment when there was no desire, there was joy. Joy is always when there
is no desire. Whenever there is desire, joy disappears. Desire keeps you
Hence Buddha says: WHILE A MAN DESIRES HIS MIND IS BOUND -- and there is
not much difference between one desire and another desire. So mind is
not much worried what you desire. Mind's worry is only one: that you
MUST desire. Desire anything! You can start collecting postal stamps,
that will do -- but desire. Now, postal stamps are useless, but there
are many people who go on collecting them.
I know one man who collects cigarette boxes. He has such a collection...
he is ready to purchase at any cost. If a new cigarette packet can be
given to him, he is ready.... He collects BIDI labels, and he goes on
showing people with such great joy, as if he has conquered the world.
I know another man who goes on writing in books, "Rama, Rama, Rama." For
years he has been doing it -- almost sixty years -- because now he is
eighty years old. His whole house is full of books in which is written
only one word, "Rama," and he goes on showing people and bragging: "Look
how many millions of times I have written 'Rama'."
When I was a guest in his house, he showed me too. I said. "You must be
a fool. You wasted all these books. You should have given these books to
children, poor children.
They would have used them in a far better way. You have simply wasted
ink, paper, your time, your life. And moreover, whenever you will come
across Rama, he will hit you on your head, because you must be
continuously harassing him: 'Rama, Rama, Rama'. Day in, day out you go
on harassing him. Avoid him; if you see Rama anywhere, escape." I asked
him, "Do you know why he always carries a bow with him? It is for
you. He is always ready with his bow and arrow, so you cannot escape."
He was shocked. He said, "What are you saying? Are you joking? I have
been doing a religious act. Everybody has praised it, great saints have
come and praised it."
I said, "Those people must have been fools just like you."
Mind can desire anything. Now, he is not collecting money, but more and
more names of Rama.... It is the same game.
A man went to see his lawyer about getting a divorce.
"How much do you charge for handling a case like mine?" he asked.
"I really don't like to handle divorce cases," replied his attorney.
"Why do you want to get a divorce?"
"Because I want to marry my wife's sister."
"Now, a case like that could get pretty messy. It might cost you as much
as a thousand dollars. Why don't you go home and think it over."
So the man went home, and the next day he called his lawyer. "I have
talked the whole thing over with my best friend," he said. "I have
decided not to get a divorce after all."
"That's just fine," said his lawyer. "Tell me, what did your friend say
that made you change your mind?"
"Well, he tells me he has been out with my wife and her sister, too, and
there ain't a nickel's worth of difference between them."
Every desire is the same. The objects differ, but not the quality of
desiring. You desire money, somebody else desires God; you desire power,
somebody else desires paradise. It is all the same. Hence there are no
religious desires, remember. Nondesiring is religious. Desiring is
worldly, desire is the world. Nondesire is transcendence.
But when one is under the impact of a desire, the impact is hypnotic.
Every desire hypnotizes you. It makes you blind, that's why we say... we
use phrases like falling in love. That is significant. The love that you
know is certainly a fall -- a fall from consciousness, a fall from
understanding. You start crawling on the earth; you are no more in your
senses, you lose your intelligence, you become stupid. The more you are
full of desire and lust, the more stupid you are.
Murphy's maxim.... Murphy says: I believe in love at first sight because
it saves time.
When you are going to fall, then why wait? Fall at the first sight. At
least time is saved if nothing else. When a person is in love with
someone -- and by love I don't mean the love of the buddhas; their love
is totally different. They are talking about prayer, they are talking
about compassion, they are talking about a desireless expression of
their being. They are sharing their bliss.
I am talking about YOUR love. It is lust, it is the lowest energy
phenomenon possible. You are almost in a hypnotic state. A man in love
with a woman, or a woman in love with a man is no longer able to see
clearly. The mind becomes clouded, the desire creates so much smoke, it
raises so much dust that you can't see clearly. And whatsoever you see
is your own projection.
A young army sergeant was posted to the deserts of Arabia by the French
Foreign Legion. After a few days he became restless and asked his
officer what form of entertainment took place in the camp -- where were
all the women and bars and so forth.
The officer replied, "Just be patient and wait until the camels arrive."
So the young sergeant waited patiently for several days more and
inquired again and the officer replied, "For heaven's sake, just wait
until the camels arrive."
The next night there was an almighty rush, all the soldiers came running
out of their tents yelling and screaming.
The young sergeant grabbed the officer and asked, "What is going on?"
"The camels are coming!" replied the officer.
"But why the great rush?"
"Well, you don't want to get an ugly one, do you?"
If you are starving in a desert, even camels will start looking
beautiful; otherwise you can't see any difference between one camel and
another. But the more your desires are starved, the more blind you
So remember, Buddha is not saying to starve your desires. He has been
misunderstood by people, by his own followers as much as by his enemies.
That is the fate of the buddhas: to be misunderstood by the friends and
the enemies both. When he is saying that desire makes you blind, he is
not saying to repress desire, because a repressed desire is far more
dangerous. He is saying, "Understand desire, meditate over the whole
phenomenon of it, and through understanding go beyond it, not through
repression. Through meditation, transcend desire. Seeing that desire is
misery, seeing that desire is bondage, seeing that desire drags you
downwards into hell, one simply is released without any repression."
And to be released from desire is to be a buddha, is to be a christ. The
greatest mystery is that those who have desires live like beggars. They
live in bondage, are bound to live like beggars. And those who have
transcended desire live like emperors. It seems existence follows a very
Old Murphy says: In order to get a loan you must first prove you don't
If you want a loan from a bank, prove that you don't need it. If the
bank suspects you need it, you won't get it.
Exactly that is the case with dhamma, with the eternal law of existence.
When you don't need anything, the whole existence is yours, the whole
kingdom of God is yours. And when you need anything, nothing is yours --
only the need and the wound and the desire and the bondage. And desires
are jumping upon you from every direction, there are desires and
desires. It is not a question of one desire; desiring is the same, but
there are millions of desires. So you live simultaneously in millions of
prisons, and they go on destroying you, they go on forcing things upon
you which you would not have accepted if there had been a moment of
insight, of clarity.
You would not have accepted such humiliation as you
accept because of desires. You would not have accepted this crawling
state. You are meant to fly into the sky. You have wings -- wings which
can take you to the ultimate. But desires are heavy like rocks; they are
crushing you. And how many desires do you have? One day simply write
them down and count them, and you will be surprised: they go on
sprouting one after the other. And each desire fulfilled brings ten more
desires in. Desires don't believe in birth control; each desire gives
birth to as many desires as possible. Desires are never barren, they are
Bobbie Jo, a truly homely gal, came home from the Verdana campus for
summer vacation. One evening she calmly confessed to her mother that she
had lost her virginity last semester.
"How did it happen?" gasped the parent.
"Well, it was not easy," admitted Bobbie Jo, "but three of my sorority
sisters helped hold him down!"
Just look around at how many desires are holding you down and how you
are being exploited, sucked. And if you look miserable, sad, depressed,
if you look weak, if you look as if life has no significance, it is not
an accident, it is your own doing. You have not understood how you go on
creating your own anguish, how you go on creating, feeding your own
Yes, Buddha is right: WHILE A MAN DESIRES, HIS
MIND IS BOUND AS CLOSELY AS A CALF TO ITS MOTHER.
A Martian landed at a busy intersection in New York City and
spent the next two hours crossing the street. He kept going back and
forth between the two electric signs that change from "Walk" to "Don't
Walk" and then back again.
Finally the weary little Martian stopped at one of the poles and threw
his arms around it. "Baby," he said, "I really do love you, but you've
got to stop being such a nag."
All desires are a nag, they go on nagging you, they go on forcing you,
they go on goading you. You can't have a moment of rest, you can't be
relaxed -- all those desires are there. Rest, relaxation, is known only
by those who have understood the art of being desireless. That's what
Buddha is pointing out:
Source - Osho Dhammapada Vol 8
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